You’re Not Broken — You’re Between Identities
When my marriage ended, I didn't just lose a partner — I lost the version of me I had built around someone else.
The one who smiled even when it hurt. The one who played it safe. The one who made herself smaller to keep the peace. That version of me died when my relationship did. And what came next wasn't clarity or peace or sudden confidence.
It was fog.
Grief. Confusion. Shame.
I wasn't broken. I was in-between.
And that changed everything.
If you're in your 20s or 30s, sitting there with a cup of coffee getting cold, wondering who you are now that the dust has settled — you're not alone. And more importantly, you're not broken either.
You're in the middle of what I call a "dreamy reset" – that sacred, uncomfortable space where everything feels uncertain, but everything is also possible.
The Myth of "Finding Yourself"
We hear it all the time: "I just need to find myself."
But here's the truth no one talks about: You don't need to find yourself. You're not a lost set of car keys or a map to some old identity that once worked.
The self you're looking for? She doesn't exist yet.
Because the version of you that's coming alive now — post-divorce, post-burnout, post-disruption — isn't some rediscovery. She's a full-blown recreation.
This is the moment where you stop being the woman others needed you to be, and start becoming the woman you were always meant to be.
Your dreamy reset isn't about getting back to who you were before your marriage. This is about discovering who you've always been underneath all those compromises, expectations, and roles you played.
And that? That's a powerful shift.
What Most Women Don't Realize in Their 'In-Between' Phase
Right now, you might be feeling:
Lost in your own skin, unsure of your own voice
Overwhelmed by decisions you suddenly have to make alone
Scared that you'll never feel confident or attractive again
Guilty for feeling excited when you're "supposed" to be grieving
That numbness you feel? That floating sensation? That deep uncertainty?
It's not failure. It's transition.
It's your nervous system recalibrating. It's your soul shedding everything that isn't truly you. And it's uncomfortable because your old self doesn't fit anymore, and your new self hasn't fully formed yet.
We don't talk enough about the middle of transformation. The awkward, vulnerable, tender space where you're not who you were but not quite who you're becoming.
This is sacred ground. This is where your real identity work begins.
Because in this in-between, you're free to ask:
Who am I without the roles I've outgrown?
What do I truly want?
What am I no longer available for?
And those questions? They're portals.
The Truth About Starting Over in Your 20s and 30s
Society might tell you that divorce is a failure, but I'm here to tell you something different: it takes incredible courage to choose yourself. To say "this isn't working" and walk toward something unknown but potentially beautiful.
You have something precious that many people spend their whole lives searching for – the opportunity to consciously create your life. Most people stumble into their lives by accident. You get to build yours on purpose.
Designing Her: The Future You Isn't Found, She's Built
Once you stop searching for your old self and start designing your next self, everything shifts.
You stop trying to go backward. You stop judging your softness or your rage. You start building a version of you that is aligned, intentional, and fully yours.
This is identity design.
It's choosing:
Daily rituals that ground you. Values that anchor you. Boundaries that protect you. Desires that pull you forward.
Your dreamy reset is about:
Rediscovering your voice – those opinions you used to soften, those dreams you put on hold
Rebuilding confidence from the inside out – the unshakeable kind that comes from knowing yourself deeply
Creating a life that feels like you – your space, your schedule, your choices, your dreams
The woman you want to be doesn't just arrive. She's constructed by every brave yes, every conscious no, every tear you let fall without shame, and every bold dream you dare to name.
You don't need to be perfect to become her. You just need to be awake.
My Story: From Breakdown to Breakthrough
In 2023 I faced the end of the life I had built. Divorce. Burnout. A complete identity unraveling.
I bought a one-way ticket to Mexico with nothing but a journal, a suitcase, and a quiet knowing that I couldn't go back to who I was.
I didn't have a 10-step plan. I had a whisper: There is more.
That whisper became a path. It took me through grief rituals, self-reclamation, spontaneous joy, heartbreak, and wild freedom.
And over time, I didn't just heal. I designed a new version of me.
The version who now lives in Costa Rica. Who wakes up excited. Who helps other women do the same.
That's how The Dreamy Reset Life was born. Not from theory. From embodiment.
Here's what I've learned from walking this path and working with hundreds of women through their dreamy resets: transformation happens faster when you're not doing it alone. When you have someone in your corner who believes in your potential even when you can't see it yet.
Want to Rebuild Yourself with Intention?
If you're in that in-between right now — lost, shedding, questioning, yearning — I see you.
I've walked that path. And I'd love to walk with you.
Your dreamy reset is waiting for you. It's not about having the perfect plan or feeling completely ready. It's about choosing to believe that your best life is still ahead of you.
Inside The Dreamy Reset Life™, my signature 1:1 container, we don't just coach. We reinvent.
And if you want sisterhood while you rise, The Reset Circle is where women like you gather monthly to reclaim their stories, vision, and power.
Ready to stop surviving and start designing?
Download your free Reset Roadmap DM me "RESET" on Instagram to start your next chapter
And if you're wondering if someone like you can really create a life that feels soft, powerful, and fully your own — I get it. I was right there not long ago. Crying on the floor. Questioning everything. But I promise you...
You're not too late. You're just getting started.
And I'm here — living proof that the rebuild can be the most beautiful part of your story.
