Why Are We Not Following Our Dreams? (seriously)

Written By Amy Kelly

The uncomfortable truth about why you're not living your fullest life — and what your birth chart reveals about breaking free

Stop for a second. Really stop!!!!

Why aren't you living the life you actually want? Why aren't you chasing those dreams that make your heart race? Why are you settling for a life that feels like it's suffocating you slowly, day by day?

Have you actually thought about that for a second?

Because I have. And the answer isn't what you think.

The Lie We Tell Ourselves

We love our excuses, don't we?

"I don't have enough money." "I'm not ready yet." "It's too risky." "I have responsibilities." "Maybe next year." "I'm too old." "I'm too young." "People will judge me."

Bullshit. All of it……

You know what the real reason is? You're scared of who you might become if you actually went for it.

You're terrified of your own power. You're afraid of outgrowing the people around you. You're petrified that if you actually lived your dreams, you'd have to take responsibility for the magic you're capable of creating.

So you stay small. You stay safe. You stay miserable.

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“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt

The Uncomfortable Truth About "Realistic" Dreams

Society has convinced you that wanting more is selfish. That dreaming big is childish. That you should be "grateful for what you have" instead of hungry for what you could create.

When did we decide that settling was noble?

When did we agree that playing it safe was more important than playing it true? When did we collectively decide that our dreams were too big, too wild, too much?

I'll tell you when: The moment we started listening to people who gave up on their own dreams.

Misery loves company, and there's nothing more threatening to someone who settled than watching someone else refuse to.

My Wake-Up Call

When my marriage imploded and I found myself back at my parents' house, everyone had opinions about what I should do next:

"Get back out there and date." "Find a stable job." "Stop being dramatic." "This is just a phase." "You need to be more realistic."

Not one person said: "What do YOU actually want?"

So I asked myself: Amy, if you could live any life, what would it look like?

The answer terrified me: I wanted to travel the world, help women transform their lives, build a business that gave me complete freedom, and never have to ask permission for anything ever again.

That dream felt so big it scared me. So I almost didn't chase it.

Thank God I ignored everyone else and listened to my soul instead.

Your Birth Chart Knows What You're Avoiding

Here's what I've discovered after years of combining astrology with deep transformation work: Your birth chart reveals exactly what you're meant to be doing — and exactly what you're avoiding.

That North Node placement you never pay attention to? That's your soul's biggest dream. Those planets in your 10th house that make you uncomfortable? That's the career you're meant to have. That Mars placement that feels "too much"? That's the energy you need to chase your dreams.

Your chart is literally a roadmap to your fullest life, and you're using it to read horoscopes about your love life.

Why We Choose Suffering Over Success

I've worked with women, and I can tell you the pattern: We're more comfortable with familiar pain than unfamiliar joy.

We'd rather stay in jobs that drain us than risk failing at something we love (I DID THIS). We'd rather complain about our lives than take the scary steps to change them. We'd rather dream small and achieve it than dream big and possibly fall short.

But here's what no one tells you: The regret of not trying is always worse than the pain of failing.

The Real Reason You're Not Living Your Dreams

It's not money. It's not time. It's not circumstances.

It's because you don't believe you deserve them.

Deep down, you don't think you're worthy of the life you actually want. You don't believe you're capable of creating something extraordinary. You don't trust that you have what it takes.

So you sabotage yourself before you even start.

You procrastinate. You make excuses. You wait for permission. You wait for the "right time." You wait for someone else to validate your dreams before you pursue them.

But nobody is coming to save you. Nobody is going to hand you permission to live your fullest life.

What Your Fullest Life Actually Looks Like

Close your eyes for a second. Really close them.

If you could live any life — if money, time, and other people's opinions didn't matter — what would you be doing right now?

Would you be traveling the world? Starting that business? Writing that book? Moving to that city? Leaving that relationship? Pursuing that career? Creating that art?

That vision that just came to you? That's not fantasy. That's your soul showing you what's possible.

The question is: What are you going to do about it?

Your Pinkprint to Breaking Free

Your birth chart holds the exact blueprint for living your fullest life. Not someone else's version of success — YOURS.

Here's what I've discovered about the women who actually follow their dreams:

They stop asking "What if I fail?" and start asking "What if I don't try?"

They understand that their birth chart isn't just personality trivia — it's their soul's instruction manual for creating an extraordinary life.

They know their:

  • Natural talents (what you're effortlessly good at)

  • Soul purpose (what you're here to contribute)

  • Optimal timing (when to make big moves)

  • Energy patterns (how to work with your natural rhythms)

  • Breakthrough moments (when transformation is most supported)

They use astrology as strategy, not entertainment.

The Choice You Have to Make

You have two choices right now:

Choice 1: Keep making excuses. Keep waiting for permission. Keep settling for a life that's "fine" while your dreams die a slow death. Keep wondering "what if" until it's too late.

Choice 2: Get honest about what you actually want. Stop letting other people's limitations become your ceiling. Use your birth chart as the roadmap it was meant to be. Start taking action toward your fullest life, even if you're scared.

Which choice feels more like you?

The Uncomfortable Question

Here's the question that changed my life, and I'm going to ask it to you:

What would you regret more: Trying and failing, or never trying at all?

Because at the end of your life, you won't regret the chances you took. You won't regret the dreams you chased. You won't regret living boldly.

You'll regret the dreams you never pursued. The chances you never took. The life you never lived.

Time to Stop Playing Small

Your dreams aren't too big. You're not too much. You're not asking for too much.

You're just scared of your own power.

But your birth chart knew who you were meant to become before you learned to doubt yourself. Your soul chose this lifetime to experience everything you're currently avoiding.

Your fullest life is waiting for you to stop making excuses and start making moves.

The stars didn't map out your chart just so you could play it safe. They created a cosmic blueprint for your most extraordinary life.

The only question is: Are you brave enough to live it?

Ready to stop settling and start living? Your birth chart holds your Pinkprint to breaking free from limitation and stepping into your fullest life. DM me "DREAMS" to discover what your chart reveals about the life you're meant to be living.

Because your dreams aren't too big. Your life is just too small. ✨

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You don’t have to figure it all out alone. If your soul is craving clarity, confidence, and a fresh start — this is your sign. Grab a journal, pull a card, and start listening to that inner whisper that says, "You were made for more."

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Your comeback story starts now. Let’s write it together.

Amy Kelly
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